I totally agree with you on this. I get the feminist arguments, but I don't think the fact that the Doctor has always regenerated as male can just be handwaved away. It's just too complicated an issue. And, frankly, I cringe at the thought of how they would've handled him regenerating as female.

I stopped watching because I think Moffat has totally ruined the show, but I was still hoping for some sort of change. Like, IIRC, before Matt Smith was cast, there were rumors going around that Paterson Joseph would be Eleven, so I thought it would be cool for them to cast an actor of color in the role. But no.