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a relatively timely update

2025-04-24T03:59:16Z

I finally got my MRI yesterday. It was supposed to have been last week, but caught a cold and I was coughing and sneezing way too much to be able to hold still during it, so I rescheduled.

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update of all against all

2025-01-15T21:08:11Z

1) I am legally in possession of a new name!

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some updates

2024-11-21T01:17:29Z

1) Today I filed for a legal name change, which I've been meaning to do since, oh, late 2019. Covid restrictions messed up the plan for a while, but after that it was just my own indecisiveness and procrastination. But now the thing is done. Sort of--I have to have a hearing before a judge to grant it, but that's just pro forma. So pro forma that when they gave me the forms to fill out, they specifically said that under "Reason" I could just put "personal." Which I did.

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reading (etc) Wednesday

2023-05-31T20:44:29Z

I've been in a bit of a reading lull since finishing Simon Jimenez's The Vanished Birds. I have his latest novel The Spear Cuts Through Water and I'm looking forward to reading it, but . . . not right now.

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trans and NB community

2022-11-27T23:07:23Z

Just a heads-up to everybody that transandnonbinary is reviving after some years of quiet. I'm an admin there, though to be honest I had completely forgotten about it and it's virgosplaining who has taken the initiative to start it up again.

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oh no, free time

2022-08-07T17:19:42Z

1) This will be the first weekend* in three months when I'm not working on the fic. (*Sunday-Monday is my weekend.)

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well, fuck

2020-06-26T18:45:10Z

Today I am mostly feeling self-loathing and fraud fear. Hello, old buddies, it's been a while.

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and now, my second moment of panic today

2020-06-19T21:17:53Z

Medical billing is an obscure and arcane branch of sorcery, y/y? Certainly it involves trafficking with the eldritch horrors that are insurance companies.

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melting

2020-06-05T20:42:13Z

Me: Ugh, it's SO HOT. Why is summer even a thing? Who invented this cursed season and how can I punish them?

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purple hair, purple hair

2020-05-29T22:57:06Z

In honor of being called "creepy" by a transphobe on Twitter, I'm putting some purple streaks in my hair. (Manic Panic Ultra Violet.)

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a month on T

2019-10-01T23:51:02Z

I've now been on testosterone for about a month. This is not nearly long enough for any outwardly noticeable physical changes, though that hasn't stopped me from checking my face daily for signs of beard.

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the trans news network

2019-08-27T21:23:21Z

Recent events:

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the state of me: embodiment edition

2019-08-14T20:30:49Z

Back in June I finally got a check-up for the first time in, oh, about 25 years. (I was doctor-avoidant long before I went through 10 years without health insurance.)

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they know they have the moral high ground because they're stomping on people's faces

2017-11-21T01:55:44Z

Today is the Trans Day of Remembrance, and it seems to have brought all the TERFs* out on social media. Because apparently it's less important to remember murdered trans people and call attention to the problem of anti-trans violence than it is to remind everybody that those dead people had ideologically incorrect gender identities.

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bzuh? and also, may I follow you?

2017-10-13T00:22:21Z

When I checked my Facebook this afternoon I was hoping for supportive reactions to having come out as trans, and braced for really ugly ones. The one possibility I hadn't prepared for was . . . no reaction whatsoever. Apart from one person yesterday, no one has commented or reacted to my post at all.

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eep

2017-10-11T23:21:26Z

Some years ago, on another National Coming Out Day, I came out as trans to all my online friends. Today I just came out to everyone I know on Facebook, including some members of my family. (I don't really have any close family left--nobody I felt I needed to tell in person.)

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"I'm a boy" covers?

2013-10-31T03:21:55Z

Does anyone know of a cover version of The Who's I'm a Boy by either a woman singer or a trans* man singer whose vocal range still sounds "female"? YouTube has been no help.

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sex, gender, and the Doctor

2013-08-05T01:43:14Z

The announcement of the Twelfth Doctor's casting has again led to dismay for people who would like the next Doctor to be a woman.

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calling people by their right names

2011-08-24T03:21:02Z

I'd better preface this by saying that I love the deleted XMFC scene where Charles shows Angel an image of Erik in a dress. I especially love "you've never looked more beautiful, darling."

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rites of passage

2011-08-11T02:56:37Z

Well, today for the first time I had a transphobic (or at least gender-policing) insult directed at me.

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catch-all post

2010-10-12T07:12:18Z

1) It was National Coming Out Day today (technically yesterday now), which means it's the one year anniversary of my coming out as a trans man. And hey, one year later, I'm still trans! Hooray! (One of my issues has been the fear that I was somehow deceiving myself and would change my mind. I haven't, and I feel a lot more certain and comfortable in my identity than I did a year ago.)

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I aten't asleep

2010-07-05T05:44:42Z

Finished the book (John Le Carré's Absolute Friends, which is the bleakest thing I have read in a long time).

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rage

2010-07-05T01:01:43Z

If any of you who have me friended agree with this secret from today's fandomsecrets, would you please defriend/unsubscribe me now?

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trans posts access filter

2010-05-25T03:57:22Z

I'm going to be creating a filter for my (very intermittent) personal posts about my identity as a trans man, the process of self-acceptance, deciding whether/how to transition, etc. If I've granted you locked-post access and you'd like to be on the filter, drop me a comment and I'll add you.

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