I'd have a much, much harder time in a studio apartment, for the record. I've never lived in a place that didn't have a living room space except for in university dorms.
Given that: it depends a lot. With people who aren't super close friends, it can be fun, for a defined time after which people are going to leave again, but I want to have that timeframe clearly mentally set aside; it's going to be fun but it's going to be draining, and I need to know when I can expect to be able to be alone and flop and decompress. With very close friends, I'm much more willing to have it be loosely defined. This can extend to a mixed group of very close and some less close friends, too, if I can trust that a) I don't have to do all the social entertaining and hosting because my close friends will help keep things going, and b) those same close friends will be able to tell when enough's enough, and will help wind the party down. In a situation where I was the only host and didn't have any trusted sort of deputy hosts, I'd be a lot more hesitant to host and a lot more drained at the end of it.
...Also it depends on whether I know these people are sort of sloppy housekeepers or good enough friends to not judge some mess, or if I feel that I have to tidy everything to achieve a sufficient facade of adulthood.
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Date: 2017-07-08 03:31 am (UTC)Given that: it depends a lot. With people who aren't super close friends, it can be fun, for a defined time after which people are going to leave again, but I want to have that timeframe clearly mentally set aside; it's going to be fun but it's going to be draining, and I need to know when I can expect to be able to be alone and flop and decompress. With very close friends, I'm much more willing to have it be loosely defined. This can extend to a mixed group of very close and some less close friends, too, if I can trust that a) I don't have to do all the social entertaining and hosting because my close friends will help keep things going, and b) those same close friends will be able to tell when enough's enough, and will help wind the party down. In a situation where I was the only host and didn't have any trusted sort of deputy hosts, I'd be a lot more hesitant to host and a lot more drained at the end of it.
...Also it depends on whether I know these people are sort of sloppy housekeepers or good enough friends to not judge some mess, or if I feel that I have to tidy everything to achieve a sufficient facade of adulthood.