bzuh? and also, may I follow you?

[kindkit]

When I checked my Facebook this afternoon I was hoping for supportive reactions to having come out as trans, and braced for really ugly ones. The one possibility I hadn't prepared for was . . . no reaction whatsoever. Apart from one person yesterday, no one has commented or reacted to my post at all.

I spent some time puzzling this through. Is being trans so unremarkable now? (Almost certainly not.) Do all my Facebook friends actually have me blocked? (Also seems unlikely.)

The most likely explanation, I have decided, is the really fucking annoying way Facebook arranges the posts on a person's feed--not chronologically, unless you specifically request it (and then it only lasts for one session), but by "most important" i.e. most liked/commented on. This is why there's always plenty of clickbaity crap at the top of one's feed. And it means that people with long Facebook friends lists can easily miss a little post like mine. #facebookishorrible #doesthismeanihavetocomeoutagain?


Speaking of annoying social media, I've started using Tumblr and Twitter again. They're less annoying on a phone, somehow. So if you have a Tumblr or Twitter, feel free to drop me a comment here with your user name on that platform.

I'm gavestonsfrolic on Tumblr and t0bacc04ndb0ys on Twitter, where so far I have never actually tweeted, just followed people. (Paul McDermott has a Twitter! I was extremely surprised.)

Comments

[magnetic_pole]

Yikes! I'm sorry. Damn FB.

Does it feel better to have it out there, though? M.

ETA: By the way, I added you on Tumblr, where I'm notquitepetworth. There's not a ton a fannish stuff, though, so if it's not your cup of tea, no worries.

[vilakins]

I use FP Purity (here) on Facebook which does lots of cool stuff like filtering out by keyword, organising your feed, hiding things like ads and popups, and most of all, listing chronologically. If I've read a post, I don't want to see it again just because someone commented. [rolls eyes] FB is a stuff-up but FB Purity does help.

[fleetsparrow]

I'm FleetSparrow on both Twitter and Tumblr (and, well, everywhere, tbh). I'm not on Tumblr much, but I do tweet bad jokes, so there's that.

[lilliburlero]

I'm @lylyburlero on Twitter, where I mostly retweet out-of-context snippets of the Táin and do battle with the Medieval Death Bot in hopes of getting one of their more arcane reply-demises ('you have died of the red plague, given to you by a Lollard'). On the offchance that you think that's worthwhile...