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Brought to you by my doctor's appointment yesterday, which I am still not over. (And not only because of the sore arm and tiredness from the pneumonia vaccine I got, or the two medical screenings for Hideous Old People Diseases that I will soon have to undergo.)

Responses are anon. Feel free to add detail in comments if you like.

Poll #28736

This poll is anonymous.
Open to: Registered Users, detailed results viewable to: All, participants: 23

You've been dreading something (a task, an event), or at least been stressed out about it. But it's over now! It went okay; nothing horrible or unusually stressful happened. How do you feel?

Elation. Everything's great now!
0 (0.0%)

Relief and relaxation, but not elation.
11 (47.8%)

Relief, but then crappy (stressed or uncomfortable) for a while.
10 (43.5%)

No real relief, just continued crappiness for a while until it wears off.
2 (8.7%)

Other, which I may choose to explain in comments.
0 (0.0%)

Pick one. Best, worst, most inevitable, who can say?

Doctor appointment
1 (4.8%)

Dentist appointment
3 (14.3%)

Therapist appointment
1 (4.8%)

Job interview
5 (23.8%)

First date
1 (4.8%)

Imminent pirate attack
0 (0.0%)

Global capitalism
2 (9.5%)

Global thermonuclear war
0 (0.0%)

Global climate catastrophe
5 (23.8%)

Just posted a fic, waiting for feedback
3 (14.3%)

I've now had 14 sessions of physical therapy to deal with my rotator cuff injury, and I swear, the worst part of it (worse even than the discomfort of having my body looked at, or the very frequent misgendering) is the small talk.

The therapists themselves are mostly okay, but there's a rotating cast of techs who supervise most of the exercises. They're all very very young women, who've probably all been trained that they should be friendly to clients, and they all. want. to. chat. I do not want to chat. I especially do not want to chat when I'm trying to count reps of my exercises, or cope with pain, or both. Also, because there are so many of them, it's the same questions over and over.

But it did make me wonder if I'm unusually averse to small talk from strangers. Hence, a poll.

The following questions are about how you react to "small talk" questions, addressed to you, from a stranger in a not-exactly-social context (e.g. a hair stylist, taxi/Uber driver, physical therapy tech, etc.) It's not about small talk at parties or other primarily social situations. It's also not about chat with co-workers or other people you see regularly (e.g. your hairstylist that you've seen every two months for the last ten years).

I know that sometimes "small talk" is micro-aggressions, and I've noted that possibility for a couple of the more likely questions, but it may be there in others that I'm less aware of.

Enlighten me, DreamWidth! Is it just me, or do we all hate small talk?

Poll #24754 The Small Talk with Strangers Poll

Open to: Registered Users, detailed results viewable to: Just the Poll Creator, participants: 30

1) "How's your day been?", "Did you have a nice weekend?" and the like:

Normal small talk
20 (66.7%)

Intrusive/too personal
1 (3.3%)

Uncomfortable for some other reason
0 (0.0%)

I guess it's normal small talk but I still don't like it
9 (30.0%)

2) "What are you up to with the rest of your day?", "Do you have plans for the weekend?" and the like:

Normal small talk
11 (36.7%)

Intrusive/too personal
8 (26.7%)

Uncomfortable for some other reason
2 (6.7%)

I guess it's normal small talk but I still don't like it
9 (30.0%)

3) "Are you from here originally?" and the like:

Normal small talk
11 (36.7%)

Intrusive/too personal
8 (26.7%)

A racist micro-aggression
6 (20.0%)

Uncomfortable for some other reason
2 (6.7%)

I guess it's normal small talk but I still don't like it
3 (10.0%)

4) "Do you have family here?" and the like:

Normal small talk
6 (20.0%)

Intrusive/too personal
17 (56.7%)

Uncomfortable for some other reason
2 (6.7%)

I guess it's normal small talk but I still don't like it
5 (16.7%)

5) "Are you married?", "Do you have kids?" and the like:

Normal small talk
1 (3.3%)

Intrusive/too personal
11 (36.7%)

A cisheterosexist micro-aggression
11 (36.7%)

Uncomfortable for some other reason
0 (0.0%)

I guess it's normal small talk but I still don't like it
7 (23.3%)

Following on from my previous post, because now I'm beginning to wonder if what I think is my culture's view of adoption and birth mothers is not actually the case. The poll is as anonymous as I can make it, and anonymous comments are allowed.

Poll #18972

This poll is anonymous.
Open to: Registered Users, detailed results viewable to: Just the Poll Creator, participants: 27

When a woman places her child up for adoption rather than raising the child herself, how is that predominantly viewed in your culture (not necessarily by you)?

Good! This is an excellent thing to do if she felt unable to raise the child herself.
11 (40.7%)

Neutral, neither good nor bad.
6 (22.2%)

Bad. She should have raised the child.
3 (11.1%)

Adoption is extremely rare or nonexistent in my culture.
2 (7.4%)

Other, which I may choose to elaborate on in the comments.
5 (18.5%)

A semi-serious poll to conclude the weekend. You can guess how much I'm looking forward to Monday morning.

People here via their network or whatever should feel free to answer too--it doesn't matter if I know you or not.

Poll #18799 Sunday Night Blues

Open to: Registered Users, detailed results viewable to: All, participants: 15

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Do you feel sad on Sunday night (or whatever night is the end of your weekend) because you have to go to work the next day?

Yes, always or almost always
5 (33.3%)

Yes, sometimes
8 (53.3%)

Yes, rarely
1 (6.7%)

Never or almost never
1 (6.7%)

If you get the Sunday night blues, when do they generally start?

Sunday evening
10 (71.4%)

Sunday mid-day
3 (21.4%)

Sunday morning
0 (0.0%)

Saturday
1 (7.1%)

If you get the Sunday Night Blues, do you think you'd feel differently if you liked your job more?

Yes
6 (42.9%)

No
8 (57.1%)

Has this poll made you even more depressed about going to work tomorrow?

Yes
5 (35.7%)

No
9 (64.3%)

Whose fault is it?

Capitalism
13 (92.9%)

Human nature
2 (14.3%)

My boss's
4 (28.6%)

My coworkers'
3 (21.4%)

My own
2 (14.3%)

The patriarchy
5 (35.7%)

Other, which I might choose to explain in comments
1 (7.1%)

I haven't done a poll in ages, so here's one based on my recent experience of bailing out on hosting a Buffy rewatch and potluck evening. Partly I bailed for good reasons (e.g. heat and lack of air conditioning), but partly because the thought of having people--people I like!--in my living space was making me miserable with dread and anxiety.

I think if my apartment was divisible into private and public spaces, I might feel somewhat differently. But I live in a studio. People would see my sleeping area and they'd have to go through it to get to the bathroom. Hmmm. I also might feel differently if my job didn't involve dealing with people all the damn time, so that my home is very much an introvert's refuge.

Anyway, I'm curious about other people's views.

Poll #18560

This poll is anonymous.
Open to: Registered Users, detailed results viewable to: Just the Poll Creator, participants: 25

How do you feel about having guests (short-term, not overnight) in your house/apartment?

I love it!
2 (8.0%)

I enjoy it.
8 (32.0%)

It's okay.
4 (16.0%)

I don't really like it.
7 (28.0%)

Arrrrgh, no, this is my space, go away!
4 (16.0%)

I've been thinking about that ever-so-common plot device, the love triangle, and wondering if I'm especially weird in how much I hate them. So, a poll! It asks only about the "two men in love with and competing for the same woman" kind of triangle, because that's by far the most frequent kind and the kind that especially puts me off.

Everyone is welcome to vote--you don't have to know me or subscribe to my journal or whatever. And if you'd like to elaborate on your responses in the comments, that's great.

ETA: The second question is meant to be pretty flippant and silly, so don't feel like you're answering it "wrong"!

Poll #15018

Open to: Registered Users, detailed results viewable to: All, participants: 79

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1) You learn that a book/film/TV show features a love triangle of the "classic" sort: two men who both love the same woman. Are you:

More interested in reading/watching than you were before
0 (0.0%)

Less interested in reading/watching than you were before
60 (75.9%)

Neither more nor less interested in reading/watching
19 (24.1%)

2) Love triangles can be resolved by:

Duels
8 (10.5%)

Fistfights
4 (5.3%)

Flipping a coin
5 (6.6%)

Heroic renunciation on someone's part
15 (19.7%)

Kidnapping
2 (2.6%)

Plot-convenient death
11 (14.5%)

Polyamory
64 (84.2%)

The two competitors behaving as though the love object's own feelings mattered
67 (88.2%)

The vertex/love object declaring "a pox on both your houses" and running away
62 (81.6%)

The two competitors realizing they're actually triangulating their forbidden love for each other
55 (72.4%)

I haven't done a poll in ages, but I've been noticing that I pronounce "manga" differently from everyone else at work, so I need to know ~~that I'm right~~ which is the preferred pronunciation.

Poll #14160

Open to: Registered Users, detailed results viewable to: All, participants: 27

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What's the right pronunciation (in English) of "manga"?

The first a sounds like the a in "at"
6 (23.1%)

The first a sounds like the a in "father."
17 (65.4%)

Something else, which I may choose to explain in comments
3 (11.5%)

Special bonus question, now with added service kink! Pick one:

Bunter
6 (25.0%)

Drumknott
6 (25.0%)

Jeeves
3 (12.5%)

Someone else, whom I may discuss in comments
2 (8.3%)

Your kink is not my kink, and that's okay
7 (29.2%)

Something today, probably Thanksgiving-related, got me thinking about a phrase my grandmother used to use to describe an abundance or overabundance of food: "enough to feed Cox's army." (Another variation is "Coxey's army.") I got to wondering how widespread it is, and also if it's in current use or is disappearing along with the people of my grandmother's generation.

So, a poll. I invite answers from everybody. Please not that I'm NOT just asking about the phrase "enough to feed an army." The name Cox's, Coxey's, or some recognizable variation of it is important.

Poll #12133

Open to: Registered Users, detailed results viewable to: All, participants: 37

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1) I live in the United States, and I (check all that apply):

Have used the phrase myself
1 (3.7%)

Have heard someone say it in real life
3 (11.1%)

Have heard it in a film/tv show or read it in dialogue
0 (0.0%)

Am familiar with the phrase's origin
2 (7.4%)

Have never heard of it before
24 (88.9%)

2) I live in another primarily Anglophone country, and I (check all that apply):

Have used the phrase myself
0 (0.0%)

Have heard someone say it in real life
0 (0.0%)

Have heard it in a film/tv show or read it in dialogue
1 (11.1%)

Am familiar with the phrase's origin
0 (0.0%)

Have never heard of it before
8 (88.9%)

3) I live in a country where English is not the main language, and I (check all that apply):

Have used the phrase myself
0 (0.0%)

Have heard someone say it in real life
0 (0.0%)

Have heard it in a film/tv show or read it in dialogue
0 (0.0%)

Am familiar with the phrase's origin
0 (0.0%)

Have never heard of it before
2 (100.0%)

And if you're wondering where it comes from, Wikipedia has the very interesting historical background for two different 'armies'.

Work potluck on Saturday. I've signed up to bring a rice dish, and am thinking of making this delicious rice with yogurt, mustard seeds, and curry leaves. But I'm worried that my co-workers will find it too unfamiliar and will hate it. Alternatively, I could make a pulao with saffron, cashews, and golden raisins. It's also tasty but not as irresistibly savory as the other one, in my opinion. Or perhaps I should bring something not-Indian. A lot (not all) of my coworkers are pretty young and possibly not very experienced/adventurous in what they eat.

What do you think?

Poll #12126

Open to: Registered Users, detailed results viewable to: All, participants: 17

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What should I bring to the potluck?

The rice with yogurt etc.
7 (41.2%)

A pulao with mild spices, nuts, and raisins
10 (58.8%)

Something else, which I may elaborate on in comments
0 (0.0%)

For

kink_bingo, I'm going to try for an all-Colditz blackout, which is to say 25 fics in the fandom. If all goes well, this means I'll be posting a lot of Colditz fic.

I know most of you are unfamiliar with the fandom, but some of you are kind enough to read my fic even in fandoms you don't know. So I've been thinking about doing a sort of introduction or "cheat" post about the show, so you could learn a bit about the characters etc. without having to watch it. (watch it watch it watch it it is awesome watch it /subliminal)

That kind of thing takes some effort, though, and I don't want to do it if no one is interested. Hence, a poll.

Poll #11057

Open to: Registered Users, detailed results viewable to: All, participants: 10

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Should Kit make a fandom-introduction post for Colditz?

Yes, please!
9 (100.0%)

I might read some of the Colditz fic but I probably won't bother with a fandom post
0 (0.0%)

I probably won't read the Colditz fic anyway, so there's no point
0 (0.0%)

Something else, which I may elaborate on in comments
0 (0.0%)

This ticky box:

Snogs other ticky boxes in quiet corners
4 (50.0%)

Found the drag revue awfully intriguing
1 (12.5%)

Is too hungry to care about sex
0 (0.0%)

Is busy digging a tunnel to escape from the internet
5 (62.5%)

Just wants peace and quiet to read its book
3 (37.5%)

I am thinking of writing a fan letter to Christopher Neame, erstwhile star of Colditz. (If you've somehow missed this burgeoning obsession of mine, you can use my Christopher Neame tag to find out more.) The internet has provided me with his agent's fan mail address, which hopefully is up to date.

I feel awkward about it, though. I'd try to write a sensible letter omitting some of the, er, creepier aspects of my fannishness (i.e. talking about his work and not how hot he was back in the 1970s). But then I find myself unsure what to say, or whether it's even possible to write a fan letter without feeling like an obsessive weirdo.

And so I turn to your collective wisdom in my first ever DreamWidth poll. Comments welcome, results not anonymous.

The poll's second question is unrelated to Christopher Neame, but quite related to what I've been cooking lately, which I plan to post about eventually.

Poll #10922

Open to: Registered Users, detailed results viewable to: All, participants: 30

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1) Writing a fan letter to a mostly-obscure actor would be:

Awesome! He'll be glad to know he still has fans.
14 (48.3%)

Nice, although you might want to mention his work that's less than forty years old.
15 (51.7%)

Pointless. Actors don't care about fan mail.
0 (0.0%)

Cringe-makingly nerdy.
0 (0.0%)

This is bordering on stalker territory, Kit.
0 (0.0%)

BACK AWAY NOW.
0 (0.0%)

Something else, which I may elaborate on in comments.
0 (0.0%)

2) Curry?

Indian
7 (24.1%)

Thai
4 (13.8%)

Other curry-producing cuisine
1 (3.4%)

I don't like curry
1 (3.4%)

I don't like spicy food
3 (10.3%)

ALL your curries are belong to me!
13 (44.8%)

I've posted a poll here for writers of fanfic (or original fic, if you like). It's on LJ, I'm afraid, because I can't post polls to DW. I don't think you need to have an LJ account to respond, although you will need one to leave comments--I've disabled anonymous commenting on my LJ because of spam.

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