my castle needs a moat

[kindkit]

I haven't done a poll in ages, so here's one based on my recent experience of bailing out on hosting a Buffy rewatch and potluck evening. Partly I bailed for good reasons (e.g. heat and lack of air conditioning), but partly because the thought of having people--people I like!--in my living space was making me miserable with dread and anxiety.

I think if my apartment was divisible into private and public spaces, I might feel somewhat differently. But I live in a studio. People would see my sleeping area and they'd have to go through it to get to the bathroom. Hmmm. I also might feel differently if my job didn't involve dealing with people all the damn time, so that my home is very much an introvert's refuge.

Anyway, I'm curious about other people's views.

Poll #18560

This poll is anonymous.
Open to: Registered Users, detailed results viewable to: Just the Poll Creator, participants: 25

How do you feel about having guests (short-term, not overnight) in your house/apartment?

I love it!
2 (8.0%)

I enjoy it.
8 (32.0%)

It's okay.
4 (16.0%)

I don't really like it.
7 (28.0%)

Arrrrgh, no, this is my space, go away!
4 (16.0%)

Comments

[lilliburlero]

My 'okay' suggests an equanimity I don't really feel: I enjoy it when people are actually there, but I get wound up beforehand and take a long time to recover afterwards. Ireland lags behind other countries when it comes to home entertaining; it's much more common than when I arrived, but the pub's primacy as a place to socialise dies hard, which suits me.

[kindkit]

I wish it were possible to do the Buffy watching in a pub or a coffee shop. I'm actually thinking about suggesting that, since the actual "watching Buffy" thing is hardly happening,* that we just start meeting for drinks.

*Out of the five of us, there's one person who cannot stop talking, two people who are also quite talkative and who are vocal in their hatred of a major character, one person who has a rambunctious two-year-old child, and me. I'm trying to accept that this is going to be more about hanging out than about the show, but I thought we were going to watch and maybe even discuss, and it's hard. Real life: not as fannish as fandom.